HARDCORE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE!

A post on Facebook by *Michelle Barrack* Obama every couple should read....

*HARDCORE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE! !!!!*

1. There is nothing that threatens the security of a wife than the thought of *_another woman_* competing for the attention and affection of her husband. Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading.

2. *Marriage flourishes when the couple works together as a team*; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score.
Good marriages don't just happen. _They are a product of hard work._

3. *Your children are watching you* and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. _Give them hope._ Make them look forward to marriage.

4. Husbands: *The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them*. _Grass is always green where it is watered_. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.

5. When a husband puts his wife *first* above everyone and everything except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife *hungers* for.

6. A successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a prefect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. *A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love and God at the center of it all.*

7. Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. _Don’t wait until there is a problem_. Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and *cover your marriage with the fence of prayer*.

8. The people you surround yourself with have a lot of *influence* on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.

9. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. *Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.*

10. _Don't take your spouse for granted._ Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse yours spouse's trust. *You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.*

11. _Beware of marital advice from single people._ Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.

12. Dear wife, Don't underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage. *The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up.* Don't let the Devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence and aspirations. Let God use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your spouse.